Improving your dating/relationships is essentially a process of improving yourself.
As the old cliché goes, the only thing ALL of your relationships have in common is you.
The cool thing about our romantic relationships is that we are always contributing to them.
So if something continues to arise in them (or if nothing arises at all — no pun intended), it means that the best place to start is with ourselves.
The Mistakes We All Make And How You Can Take Control Of Your Love Life Once And For All,
Who you attract (or who you don’t attract) into your life, and who you keep (or who you don’t keep) in your life, essentially boils down to this: what you value.
Allow me to explain,
What you value determines what you find attractive.
If you value physical appearance above all else, then you will be willing to sacrifice all other traits for physical appearance in a partner.
If you value intelligence above all else, then you will be willing to overlook other traits in favor of intelligence.
What you value in your life determines what you’re attracted to in others, which then determines the kind of partners you pursue, and the people you end up in relationships with.
First Common Problem
You value the wrong traits in a partner — traits that are actually incompatible with you and/or create bad relationships. But it goes further than that. Because what you value also determines what you will cultivate and invest in for yourself.
So if you value money above all else, then you will invest your time/effort into making money and attract partners who highly value money as well.
If you value honesty and authenticity, then you will invest in your own honesty and authenticity and therefore attract partners who value the same.
Second Common Problem
You invest and work on the wrong traits in yourself — traits that attract people who are incompatible or bad partners for you. It all boils back down to what you value.
Decide your values, prioritize them, and then get to work on them.
Then, like magic, watch your dating life completely transform. It so happens that some values are better than others.
Some values create better relationships than others. For instance, honesty generates better relationships than hype or impressing others.
Trust generates better relationships than power/dominance. And respect generates better relationships than always being right.
These are just some simple but fundamental examples. Examples that are explored in much more depth in a coaching session.
The coaching helps you dive deep into your own beliefs and then understand your own values.
But not only does it help you to understand your own values, it helps you understand why these values are helping you or hurting you in your relationships.
Finally, the coaching helps you to understand the most important values for successful relationships and helps you invest in them and reprioritize them.
The coaching is gender neutral, for any age and for any sexual orientation.
Anyone can benefit from it. Especially those who continue to struggle in their relationships despite putting in years and years of effort (and especially for those who have tried a ridiculous “technique” or two.)
When You Sign Up For The Relationships Coaching’
You Will Also Learn
These exercises are often interactive, requiring you to go out into the world and try something. I know: scary.
Once you complete an exercise, you are encouraged to do a write up about what you learned.
By the end of the course, you should have made significant progress towards improving your love life and your ability to create and maintain strong and healthy relationships.
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